Let’s talk feelings! I think a lot of adults (myself included) were taught that sad or angry feelings are “bad” and we should try not to feel them, or to “get over” them as soon as possible. Research is showing that this attitude is not the healthiest. All feelings are valid and they actually give us important information about ourselves and help us process the world and our place in it. (If you’re interested in reading more, I recommend the book Permission to Feel by Marc A. Brackett.)
All this to say, I hope this generation of kids gets permission to be more in tune with their feelings, learning strategies to process them and not simply hide or bottle them up. That starts with us normalizing talking about them, being able to identify them in yourself and others, and teaching ways to process without hurting yourself or others. I can’t say that this storytime is going to solve all the problems, but I hope it was one small step in the right direction.
See another version of this theme from 2020.
Early Literacy Tip: Grown-ups, talking about both our own feelings and other people’s feelings is so important! Research shows that kids with emotional intelligence do better in school and life because they can self-regulate and build strong relationships. When you read books, talk about how the characters are feeling and make connections. This helps your child build the vocabulary they need to better recognize their own feelings and communicate with you.
I’m trying to be better about sourcing my early lit tips, at least here on the blog. This one came whole cloth from Jessica at Storytime in the Stacks, who always includes excellent early lit/early development tips!
Welcome Song: Hello, Friends* (TT) (TB) (FT)**
Warm Up Song: Wake Up, Feet* (TT) (TB) (FT)
This is a repeated song that everyone seems to enjoy. I always begin and end with feet and tummies, but find two other body parts to wiggle in the middle. I rotate between elbows, cheeks, hips, noses, arms, chins, thighs, heads, shoulders, ears, knees, and fingers.
Lifting Rhyme: Toast in the Toaster* (TT) (FT)
Intro: Today we are talking about our feelings! Our feelings help us process the world around us. It’s okay to feel all the feelings. What are the names of some feelings?
Activity: Identify Feelings (TT) (TB) (FT)
Show emotions on cartoon faces, and/or photos of kids’ faces. What might they be feeling? Sometimes it’s hard to tell what others are feeling. We can share our feelings to help others understand.
(OPTIONAL – Read: I Feel by Juana Medina)
I used the cartoon feelings faces from (now defunct) Sunflower Storytime, as well as feelings cards of photographs of actual kids that I put together from Canva images. I like that some of them are not cut and dried – what I labeled as “excited” could be read as “happy.” The tired yawning baby could be interpreted as crying. Feelings aren’t always easy to read! I didn’t use the Juana Medina book, but it is another good resource with lots of feelings and great illustrations of diverse kids.
Download the Sunflower Storytime Feelings Faces (6 emotions)
Download Feelings Cards with photographs (10 emotions, 2 faces each)
Action Rhyme: Feelings (TT) (TB) (FT)
Sometimes on my face you’ll see
How I feel inside of me
A smile means happy, a frown means sad
And when I grit my teeth, I’m mad
When I’m proud I beam and glow
But when I’m shy, my head hangs low
Source: North Olympic (WA) Library System
Transition: If You’re Ready for a Story* (TT) (TB) (FT)
Read: Mad, Mad Bear by Kimberly Gee (TT) (FT)
Bear gets very mad, but some breathing, a snack, and a nap help him feel better.
Read: Hooray for Hat! by Brian Won (TB)
This is a good one for interactivity – there are repeated phrases that the whole group can help yell out.
Here’s a silly song about being grumpy. Who looks sleepy? Who looks grumpy?
Flannel Song: Five in the Bed (TT) (TB) (FT)
There were five in a bed, and the little one said (5 fingers up)
“Roll over, roll over” (make rolling motion)
And they all rolled over and one fell out.
There were four in a bed… (continue down to one)
There was one in the bed and the little one said,
(tune of He’s Got the Whole World In His Hands)
“Ahhhhhhhh. I’ve got the whole bed to myself!
I’ve got the whole wide bed to myself!
I’ve got the whole bed to myself,
I’ve got the whole bed to myself! Goodnight!”
Source: traditional
[My friend Rebecca at Oconee County Library cued me in to connecting the songs Five in the Bed and He’s Got the Whole World; I think it’s a brilliant mashup! I made my own copy of Five in the Bed flannel using inspiration from Adventures in Storytime for the faces and Making Learning Fun for the bed. The faces flip to show their sleeping and surprised faces (the little one starts out grumpy)]
Sometimes when I get hurt, I feel sad or mad or scared.
We clapped and patted in rhythm through most of this.
Rhyme: Boo Boo (TT) (TB) (FT)
One, two, I’ve got a boo-boo
Three, four, oh, it’s sore!
Five, six, blow it a kiss
Seven, eight, put the bandage on straight
Nine, ten, now it’s better again!
Source: North Olympic (WA) Library System
Breathing can help us feel, and it’s a great way to work through big feelings.
Ukulele Song: Take a Breath (The Self-Reg Song) (TT) (TB) (FT)
Verse 1:
When I’m not doing fine, I keep this in mind
I can take a breath or two
When I want to feel well, I can be still
I can take a breath or two
Breathing in, Breathing out, Breathing in, Breathing out
When I am still, I can be fine, Breathing in and out
Additional verses:
…I can sing a song or two…
…I can move my arms around…
Last verse:
To change how I feel, I keep this in mind
I can take a breath – I can hum a song – I can move my arms – And feel all right.
Source: Raffi, from the album Dog on the Floor
Get a downloadable ukulele songsheet here!
We didn’t end up doing this one for any of the sessions.
Whatever we feel, it’s good to remember our grownups love us no matter what.
Action Song: I’ll Hug You
(tune of Farmer in the Dell)
I’ll hug you when you’re sad
I’ll hug you when you’re glad,
I’ll hug you when you’re feeling scared
I’ll hug you when you’re mad
Source: Librionyian
Let’s shake it out now with some shaker egg songs!
Shaker Song: Shake It to the East (TT) (TB) (FT)
Shake it to the east, Shake it to the west
Shake it all around and Then you take a rest
Shake your shakers up, Shake your shakers down
Shake it, shake it, shake it, and Then you settle down!
Source: Jbrary
We shook our eggs along with the motions.
Shaker Song: If You’re Happy and You Know It (TT) (TB) (FT)
If you’re happy and you know it shout hooray…
…grumpy…stomp your feet…
…sad…have a cry (boo hoo!)…
…silly…wave your arms…
…surprised…shout “oh my!”…
…scared…cover your eyes…
Source: Rain City Librarian
I like the live version of this recording best!
Recorded Song: Shake My Sillies Out (TT) (TB) (FT)
Source: Raffi, from the album In Concert with the Rise and Shine Band
I also have this one as a ukulele songsheet. Download it here!
Action Song: Zoom, Zoom, Zoom!* (TT) (TB) (FT)
Craft: Feelings Flower (TB) (FT)
I looked around for a feelings craft that my little ones could do, but the ones I saw were generally too complex, requiring them to draw faces, or just didn’t fit quite what I wanted. So, finding inspiration in a couple of places, I created my own. The flower concept came from this video from Gru Languages, but they didn’t have a free printable and it involved both drawing faces as well as didn’t include all of the emotions I’d prefer. I also saw a feelings spinning wheel from Super Simple Songs, but again, it was a little more complex. So I created my own flower shape, labeled it with the feelings I wanted, and used the round tokens from Super Simple Songs. That way, the kids just needed to match the right feeling to the right petal (with their grown-up’s help), glue it down, and decorate by coloring. The kids really liked it – the faces were recognizable to them, and they liked how the petals folded in. I mentioned that it might be a good tool for them to use anytime they’re feeling big feelings and they’re having trouble putting them in words. (I did resize and place the Super Simple Songs tokens on a page to maximize how many could be printed without wasting paper, but because this isn’t my IP, I don’t feel comfortable sharing that sheet.)
Download the flower template here.
Play Time
The toddlers have two laundry baskets of baby toys – rattles and cars, sorters and stackers, toy phones and spinners. For the older kids, I have foam blocks, soft food toys, puzzles, and a few other items that are a little more sophisticated than the baby toys. For Family Time, I gauge the overall age of the group and put out what seems right for them. We play for 5-10 minutes at the most, then I ring the bell and ask the kids to help me clean up. I think the clean up bit is good practice for them!
Goodbye Song: See You Later Alligator* (TT) (TB) (FT)
Goodbye Rhyme: Tickle the Stars* (TT) (TB) (FT)
Other books I had available for families to browse (and may work for you on this theme)
I Feel! – Juana Medina
I’m Sad – Michael Ian Black & Debbie Ridpath Ohi
Grumpy Pants – Claire Messer
How Do You Feel? – Lizzy Rockwell
The Rabbit Listened – Cori Doerrfeld
The Many Colors of Harpreet Singh – Supriya Kelkar & Alea Marley
When Sadness Is at Your Door – Eva Eland
When Sophie Gets Angry-Really, Really Angry – Molly Bang
I Am a Tornado – Drew Beckmeyer
I Want to Be Mad for a While! – Barney Saltzberg
This storytime was presented in-person on 4/29, 4/30, & 5/1/24.
Storytime Handout:
*Lyrics to these songs can be found on the Repeated Songs & Rhymes page.
**These symbols indicate the program sessions I used the activities for:
(TT) Toddler Time, ages 1-2
(TB) Teddy Bears, ages 2-3.5
(FT) Family Time, ages 0-3.5
Storytime with Ms. Emily Library 